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How frequently should I have sex?

Catherine McDiarmid-Watt | Tuesday, May 31, 2016 | 0 comments

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More the merrier!
The simple rules of probability apply to baby making too. It is a myth to think you should have less sex in order to conceive. All the evidence shows that the more you have sex, the better your chances of getting pregnant. With the way our lives are getting cramped and fast paced, it is not surprising that infertility experts regularly observe how many people are having problems trying to get pregnant because they are simply not having sex often enough, especially during the woman's most fertile few days of her cycle – ovulation.

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Sex during ovulation
To capitalize on your chances of getting pregnant you must first understand ovulation and why it is important for conception. It is the most fertile period in your cycle when the egg or ovum is released into the uterus. During this fertile period you need to make love every couple of days. By doing this you can almost double your chances of getting pregnant. Remember that the sperm can live for anywhere from 48-72 hours within the woman's reproductive system depending on the how favorable the cervical environment is. Sexual intercourse every 2-3 days, around or at the time of ovulation, should be adequate to achieve pregnancy.

Abstinence for baby making
There is a common practice where many couples believe they have to save the man's ejaculate until the exact moment of ovulation. You don't really have to do that. In fact, having sex often ensures that the sperm in a man's ejaculate is as healthy as it can be. Storing it up can decrease its motility, so don't be tempted to put off intercourse until you ovulate, and don't abstain for more than seven days in a row. Read our article on whether abstinence from sex can help to improve the sperm count for related information on this topic.

Ignore all the myths that the man will 'run out' of sperm if you have sex too often. On the contrary, some men have a drop in their sperm count if they don't ejaculate regularly. It is true that the density of sperm in each ejaculate diminishes with frequent orgasms. But remember that it takes only one healthy sperm to make it to the woman's Fallopian tubes during the time of ovulation. So density is less important than quality and motility here.

This is not to say that you should have sex every day during or around ovulation when attempting pregnancy. Every second day during the middle of the cycle is ordinarily enough. And while you are being familiar with your cycle, it's equally important that you try to relax and enjoy sex. The more relaxed you are, the better your chances of conceiving. So have sex not just for the baby but for yourselves too.

Day or night!
Some people believe that day is a better time for baby making sex because the sperm count is higher then as compared to nights. While some studies claim that a man's sperm count may be higher in the morning, the differences are minimal. This slight difference in the sperm count is inconsequential is affecting your chances of getting pregnant. Recent research shows that the best time of the day for sex if you wanted to get pregnant was in the early evening between 5 and 7 pm, when sperm counts are up to 35% higher, sperm are livelier, and women are more likely to ovulate. Keep in mind that far more important than the time of day is the time of the woman's cycle

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Image: The Brotherhood of Joseph: A Father's Memoir of Infertility and Adoption in the 21st Century, by Brooks Hansen. Publisher: Modern Times; First Edition edition (May 27, 2008)The Brotherhood of Joseph: A Father's Memoir of Infertility and Adoption in the 21st Century
by Brooks Hansen

-- Offering men a chance to be heard and women a rare opportunity to view the struggle with infertility from a male perspective, The Brotherhood of Joseph brings to life the anger, frustration, humor, heartbreak, and sense of helplessness that come to dominate the husband’s role.

As his remarkable account reaches its finale in Siberia, however, Hansen’s once again becomes the story of a husband and a wife who, even after years of medical frustration and fruitless paperwork, still must take one last risk together and trust in their most basic instincts before their new family can be born.

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About Catherine: I am mom to three grown sons, two grandchildren and two rescue dogs. After years of raising my boys as a single mom, I remarried a wonderful man who had never had a child of his own. Unexpectedly, I found myself pregnant at 49!
Sadly we lost that precious baby at 8 weeks, and decided to try again. Five more losses, turned down for donor egg, foster care and adoption due to my age and losses - we have accepted that there will be no more babies in our house.

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